How to Make Friends In Paris As An Expat

Moving to Paris as an expat is a dream for many, but one of the biggest challenges is making genuine French friends. Parisians have a reputation for being reserved, and breaking into social circles that are already formed can feel intimidating. 

Making local friends as an expat in Paris isn’t always easy, but it’s incredibly rewarding. With patience, cultural understanding, and the right approach, forming meaningful friendships is absolutely possible. Here’s how to navigate the Parisian social scene and build lasting connections.

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Learn the basics of French culture and etiquette

Before diving into making friends, it’s essential to understand French social customs. The French value politeness and proper greetings—always start with a “Bonjour” when addressing someone, and don’t forget the bises (cheek kisses) when greeting friends. Avoid being overly enthusiastic or intrusive at first; friendships in France tend to develop gradually.

Another key to blending in is understanding tu and vous. The French use “vous” for formal interactions and “tu” with friends. Using “tu” too soon can be seen as overly familiar, so follow your French counterparts’ lead.

Still confused? We have an entire blog on how to master French manners and etiquette! 

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Take a class or join a group 

One of the easiest ways to meet locals is by joining an activity where social interaction is natural. Consider enrolling in French language classes to hone your new language skills and to meet new people at the same time. 

You could also enrol in cooking or wine-tasting workshops (the french love their food and wine!), art or sports clubs, fitness classes or even find local social events on sites like Meetup and Facebook. 

The Paris Teachers Club was formed for this very reason – to offer support, advice, friendship and work opportunities to expat English teachers working in Paris! If you’re moving to the city to teach and are eager to join a fun and friendly group, join us – it’s free! You’ll gain access to private groups, catch ups and so much more! 

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Don’t be shy! 

Unlike some cultures where small talk is common, French people don’t typically chat with strangers in cafés or grocery stores. However, that doesn’t mean they’re unfriendly—it just means you may need to take the first step.

A great way to start a conversation is by asking for recommendations—whether it’s about a good local bakery, upcoming events, or recommended museums or activities. The French love discussing their passions, so showing genuine interest in topics like cinema, literature, or politics can spark engaging conversations.

If you meet someone you get along with, don’t be afraid to suggest a casual follow-up. Friendships in France often begin with shared activities rather than casual small talk.

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Befriend neighbours and new colleagues 

If you work in Paris, your colleagues can be a great gateway into the local social scene. French workplace culture is professional, but many people are open to after-work drinks (apéro). Accepting invitations to these informal gatherings can help form relationships outside of the office.

Similarly, making small efforts to chat with neighbors— even saying bonjour in the hallway or supporting local businesses—can gradually build connections.

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Improve your French skills 

While many Parisians speak English, making an effort to communicate in French shows respect and will opens more doors on your social calendar. Even if your French isn’t perfect, locals appreciate the effort.

To hone your French language skills, there are a host of language exchange apps, as well as general language learning apps. Immerse yourself as much as possible in all things French language – podcasts, news articles, books and more – and of course, being brave and speaking the language as often as possible are all key to progressing in your second language education.

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Be patient and consistent 

Unlike some cultures where friendships form quickly, French friendships tend to develop over time. It’s normal to feel like an outsider at first, but consistency is key. Keep attending events, engaging in activities, and showing genuine interest in those around you. Don’t give up! 

Once you break through, French friendships are often deep and long-lasting. The French value loyalty and meaningful conversations, so don’t be discouraged if it takes a while to feel fully included.

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